Friday, June 17, 2005

The Keys to My Heart

The Keys to Your Heart
You are attracted to those who have a split personality - cold as ice on the outside but hot as fire in the heart.
In love, you feel the most alive when your partner is patient and never willing to give up on you.
You'd like to your lover to think you are stylish and alluring.
You would be forced to break up with someone who was emotional, moody, and difficult to please.
Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.
Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.
You think of marriage as something that will confine you. You are afraid of marriage.
In this moment, you think of love as commitment. Love only works when both people are totally devoted.

Source: http://www.blogthings.com/keystoyourheartquiz/

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Conversation and a story of THE MAYONNAISE JAR AND COFFEE

I had a conversation with Danny - my English teacher as I mentioned in a post the other day ( via msn ). He could hardly remember me but we kept chatting and ended up talking about our personal lives. He is going to get married with a Vietnamese girl. He bought a flat in Hanoi and will be staying there in the future. Meanwhile, i'm going to England ( his country ) to study. We are going on reverse ways! Danny seems to have a lot of bad memories in England, he talked ( actually typed :) all that he kept inside to me... That's may be the reason he left England to work in Vietnam. But I don't hesitate, I am prepared to learn good and bad things in my life. Whatever they are, I need to experience and learn, to see them for myself. We all know that we can't stay in one place and learn everything. Lately after the talk, he sent me a story of the mayonnaise jar and coffee. I could derive from it what he indicated: no matter how far I want to go, how high i want to climb, i still need to spare time to the most essential things: family, friends and my own passion. We all know that. Don't worry, Danny! I'm not travelling forever :)

Danny says:
sorry not sure
Danny says:
ah hiep
Danny says:
i just noticed your mail address
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
can't blame u...it's been 3 years and u had so many students before
Danny says:
yeh but i can usually remember most even if not their name
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
i was in Elementary B class
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
summer of 2002
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
like rock music
In Singapore ... until end of June says:

In Singapore ... until end of June says:
and u said i could go to a higher level class
Danny says:
in the funny shaped room i think
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
we had many rooms
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
nevermind
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
ah
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
we went for a karaoke at the end of the course
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
at Nguyen Bieu
Danny says:
ah yes now i remember near truc bac lake
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
remember u told me on the way back about your girl friend named Loan
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
haha
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
still with her?
In Singapore ... until end of June says:

Danny says:
wow i don't remember her
Danny says:
i have a new girl now and we may get married
Danny says:
i have a flat too
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
Vietnamese?
Danny says:
so i have to work very hard to pay for it all
Danny says:
yes she is from hanoi
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
so u will be staying in Vietnam permanently?
Danny says:
no i plan to travel for a few years and then come back
Danny says:
it is very dull here
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
travel first then go back Vietnam and get married?
Danny says:
no get married here as it is then easier to travel and get visas then come back when the kid is about 4 or 5 years old and has to go to school
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
i see
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
where will u two go?
Danny says:
no idea yet
Danny says:
will see where i can work
Danny says:
i work for the British Council now so see what they have for me
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
so u ask them to transfer u to another country?
Danny says:
yeh i have to apply and then i can go to many different places
Danny says:
easy
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
i see
Danny says:
look Hiep i have to sleep now
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
ok
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
good nite
Danny says:
catch you another time
Danny says:
see you
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
see u!
Danny says:
good luck with your studies
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
thanks!
Danny says:
have a good one in Sing
Danny says:
bye
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
leaving Sing soon
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
haha
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
to England
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
your country
Danny says:
poor you
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
why?
Danny says:
i don't like it over there
Danny says:
it is better for me here
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
i heard people there are cold as the weather
In Singapore ... until end of June says:

In Singapore ... until end of June says:
but i'm still young, need to go, to travel, to study...
Danny says:
yeh it's good for you to see
Danny says:
open your eyes
Danny says:
you need to see for yoursefl
Danny says:
make your own decisions
Danny says:
then choose what you want
Danny says:
sometimes it takes a long time and you don't know what is right
Danny says:
but once you know then you feel good and can really make what you want actually happen
Danny says:
that is great
Danny says:
to have a plan
Danny says:
but you can't do that by staying in hanoi
Danny says:
you have to go
Danny says:
so you have a great chance
Danny says:
take it
Danny says:
eat ti
Danny says:
eat it
Danny says:
it WILL make you happy
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
ok, thanks! it seems u have many things to say
In Singapore ... until end of June says:

Danny says:
just an old fool
Danny says:
who never got it right
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
just expresssing yourself huh!
Danny says:
make good choices and stick to then
Danny says:
them
Danny says:
invest now
Danny says:
i am off to bed goodnight
In Singapore ... until end of June says:
ok


THE MAYONNAISE JAR AND COFFEE
> > >
> > >When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 Hours
> > >in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar...and the
> > >coffee...
> > >
> > >A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in
> > >Front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very
> > >large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf
> > >balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that
> >
> > >it was.
> > >
> > >So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into
> > >the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open
> > >areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the
> > >jar was full. They agreed it was.
> > >
> > >The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
> > >Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if
> > >the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."
> > >
> > >The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and
> >
> > >poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty
> > >space between the sand. The students laughed. "Now," said the
> > >professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this
> >
> > >jar represents your life."
> > >
> > >The golf balls are the important things- your family, your children,
> > >your health, your friends and your favouritepassions - things that if
> > >everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still
> > >be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job,
> > >your education, your house, and your car. The sand is everything
> > >else-the small stuff.
> > >
> > >"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no
> > >room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you
> > >spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have
> > >room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the
> > >things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children.
> > >Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner.
> > >Play another 18.
> > >
> > >There will always be time to clean the house and wash the car. Take
> > >care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your
> > >priorities. The rest is just sand.
> > >
> > >One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee
> > >represented.
> > >
> > >The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you
> > >that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a
> > >couple of cups of coffee with a friend."
> > >
> > >Please share this with someone you care about.
> > >
> > >I just did.




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